Celebrating the Love and Care of Aunts

As mentioned in my first Mother’s Day story, my parents often travelled together to international conferences. And sometimes, my parents needed help with my care. Fortunately, we knew many wonderful women who helped fill the maternal gap.

During the early teen years, I travelled without my parents to see family who lived in other parts of the country. And the care of two aunts during those visits was especially memorable.

A welcome guest

Aunt Eileen – My father’s sister lived in Pennsylvania, across the country from our home in California, but she was instrumental in my care. Aunt Eileen already had four kids of her own – two boys and two girls – but happily welcomed another child into her family.

During my time with my aunt and uncle, I enjoyed my status as eldest cousin to my four younger relatives. I valued being part of a larger family group, in contrast to being the only child in my home.

I remember one time my aunt was especially generous. She and my Uncle Richard had driven me to the Jersey shore to spend some time with my grandparents. And as she said goodbye, Aunt Eileen slipped a twenty-dollar bill into the pocket of my shirt. That was a much appreciated gesture to a young teenager!

My ‘bonus’ parents

Aunt Phee – You’re not supposed to pick favourites – especially if it involves family members – but my Aunt Phee (I don’t think I ever heard anyone call her by her given name of Phyllis) was absolutely my favourite!  

Aunt Phee and Uncle Merlin (my mom’s brother) were ‘bonus’ parents to me. They and their daughters treated me like family in the best possible way. My aunt and uncle lived only two towns over from us, so we got together often. Having my cousins nearby as ‘almost siblings’ meant I felt loved and included by them. During those wonderful get-togethers, I felt happy and free to simply be myself.

I will always cherish the welcome and companionship my aunts and uncles gave me when I was growing up.